Very often you’ll find people complain that things aren’t
going their way or everything is wrong in their lives. But as much as you
complain, you’re the architect of your life, for either good or bad things that
happen to you.
Let’s take a very simple scenario: you’re supposed to be at
the office by 8:00am and you get to the office by 9:30am due to major traffic
by the main road leading to your work place, now your boss is mad at you because
you didn’t make that pitch with the new big client that she trusted you with
and your company has lost the client. First problem you slept late, secondly
you woke up late in the morning feeling like shit but you just had to go to
work because you’re owing mam’ Mavis R800 that you took to impress that new
girl at work, buying her lunch on Fridays. Your first morning thought was “shit I’m late, will this day end already, I’m dead!”
it hasn’t even started but you want it to end, c’mon. Your reaction to any
event will determine the outcome.
If your reaction was “shit I’m late,
let me call Suzy to do the first half of the presentation and I’ll pop in to do
the other half and we’ll share the commission” if your company gets the
client on board both of you and Suzy will benefit hugely from it. Both of you
win and your boss is happy, you both get your salaries bumped up a few thousands
and finally you can afford that blue VW Scirocco GT 2.0, yes the one you’ve been
eyeing every morning at the dealership. You see, a calm calculated reaction to
an event will yield positive results, don’t confuse it with impetuosity. For
everything that has happened in your life it is all because of you! You applied
for that R1000 loan at FNB and they told you that you qualify for an R8000 loan
and you took it anyways and now you can’t afford to make repayments, you decided to
stay in that miserable job that makes you cry every morning when you wake up
and it gives you a headache when you knock off! You took your kid to a cheap
day care centre and now you complain when they feed her beans and soup all day!
Same principle that applies to science applies to life,
Newton’s third law states that for every action there’s an equal and opposite
reaction. For whatever that you do there’ll be repercautions either good or
bad. Being impulsive most of the time yields bad results, for an example; you
go out grocery shopping and you end up buying the whole grocery store because,
you didn’t have a proper plan to follow, that’s why there’s a grocery list that
you need to put down every month before even going to the grocery store. When I
do our monthly grocery, I start calculating, adding everything up before I get a
surprise at the counter. It is well for me kind of embarrassing to return half
the trolley with food because you can’t afford it (at times I’m guilty of
paying with my card and I end up not seeing the value of the food I bought because
plastic money is not tangible and the food costs too much when you review your
banking statements).
My point is, you are what you think, if your life is in shambles
and you’ve given up on attaining success then it is of your own doing. If you
think that you won’t make it past matric or your salary is too little to main
your basic needs then you’ve have subconsciously chosen the path that your life
will lead, because you have shut down other idea avenues that you could’ve had.
If it seems as if you won’t make it past matric then prepare early, get
afternoon classes that will make you improve on your grades or you’re getting too
little salary that is below your living expenses then make a plan, either get a
good paying job or man up to your boss and ask for a better salary that would
see you breaking the norm of living off pay cheque to pay cheque (it seems
difficult to get a raise these days, but it’s not).
The choice is ultimately yours, it is never too late for
change. An example to support my statement is sir Sipho 'Hotstix' Mabuse, he
passed his matric at the age of 60 years in 2012. Remember your reaction to any
given event will determine the outcome and your thoughts ultimately become your
future.
Phumi Newjack